Baby Talk: Truth About Not Trying

I'm back with Tuesday's link up with Kristin!  And I wanted to talk about not trying to try to have a baby.  Everyone- even Kristin- told me when you stop trying, it will happen.  It's sort of like when you stop looking for Mr. Right, he will come along.  Totally true for me in both circumstances.  When I ran into Ryan over 3 years ago at the gym, I wasn't looking for a boyfriend.  I wasn't in a hurry to get married.  I was happy living downtown, working my job, and being single.  And then Ryan showed up in my life.  To be honest I know it was God.  It was His timing, His plan, and His story.  I constantly thank God for being the author of my story.  But when I finally stopped looking for myself and trying to find a boyfriend, God gave me Ryan.  And again when I turned things over to God, we got pregnant.

We started trying for a baby in September.  I sort of thought it would happen right away but when it didn't I had plenty of reasons why September didn't work-- I just got off birth control, Ryan was sick in the hospital and on antibiotics, we had no idea when I was ovulating, etc.  We were just hopeful it would happen right away.  And then in October, November, and December I started thinking about it all time.  I was consumed.  I read blogs.  I tried to figure out my cycle.  I did everything but take an ovulation test- I wasn't ready to go to that yet.  But I quickly learned that trying to have a baby is harder than it seems.

And then at the beginning of 2013 we had a family event happen that opened my eyes.  I won't go into the event as it is really personal but I was awakened that God has a plan for Ryan and my life and it needed to be in His timing that we got pregnant.  I was completely content in giving up control and letting God give us a baby in His time.  I stopped reading blogs, I stopped counting days, and I started trusting God's plan.  I had to remind myself that up to now God has never failed me; instead he has richly blessed me with this life.  So I stopped planning and guess what?!  Yep we got pregnant in January!  Once again God reminded me to trust Him and His plans are perfect!

Here's the thing- whether you believe in God or think my story is ridiculous this part is true.  You can drive yourself crazy and stress yourself out if you are worried about getting pregnant.  You will add stress to your marriage and you will become distracted from the other important things in your life.  So let go and stop trying!